Politeness Quotes

Politeness Quotes by Jeff Ross, Lord Chesterfield, F. Scott Fitzgerald, Fran Lebowitz, Clare B. Dunkle, Mark Twain and many others.

With everybody having a Facebook and a Twitter, I feel like regular people consider themselves stars. It’s a live, real-time upload of every time we buy a pair of socks, the most telling sign that we’re losing our politeness. When you know everything about somebody, you can talk to them any way you please.
Nothing is more dissimilar than natural and acquired politeness. The first consists in a willing abnegation of self; the second in a compelled recollection of others.
My generation of radicals and breakers-down never found anything to take the place of the old virtues of work and courage and the old graces of courtesy and politeness.
I place a high moral value on the way people behave. I find it repellent to have a lot, and to behave with anything other than courtesy in the old sense of the word – politeness of the heart, a gentleness of the spirit.
Lively, intelligent, and quite immature, [Emily] usually burst out with exactly the comment that summed up the situation beautifully and therefore could never in politeness be said.
The highest perfection of politeness is only a beautiful edifice, built, from the base to the dome, of ungraceful and gilded forms of charitable and unselfish lying.
ACCEPT PRAISE FOR ITS WORTH – POLITENESS. BE BRUTALLY FRANK WITH YOURSELF. IT’S SAFER.
Politeness requires this thing; decorum that; ceremony has its forms, and fashion its laws, and these must always follow, never the promptings of our own nature.
The list of my favorite experiences would almost equal the list of plays I’ve been in. There are a few exceptions, but out of politeness I’m not going to mention them. If you don’t have a few stinkers, you can’t appreciate the good ones.
I smiled back, the importance of manners, my mother always said, is inversely related to how inclined one is to use them, or, in other words, sometimes politeness is all that stands between oneself and madness.
The truest politeness comes of sincerity.
Politeness is the flower of humanity.
No use to preach to the working-man courtesy & politeness when at the same time the working-man is not given working conditions under which he can stay polite and soft-mannered.
Tact is the great ability to see other people as they think you see them.
Carl Zuckmayer
A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.
Good-breeding is not confined to externals, much less to any particular dress or attitude of the body; it is the art of pleasing, or contributing as much as possible to the ease and happiness of those with whom you converse.
The steward, according to custom, had stopped all the clocks. This, in the language of Narouz, said “Your stay with us is so brief, let us not be reminded of the flight of the hours.”
Politeness and civility are the best capital ever invested in business. Large stores, gilt signs, flaming advertisements, will all prove unavailing if you or your employees treat your patrons abruptly. The truth is, the more kind and liberal a man is, the more generous will be the patronage bestowed upon him.
Politeness goes far, yet costs nothing.
Diplomacy is the lowest form of politeness because it misquotes the greatest number of people. A nation, like an individual, if it has anything to say, should simply say it.
The wisest and best are repulsive, if they are characterized by repulsive manners. Politeness is an easy virtue, costs little, and has great purchasing power.
In the media universe we’re in, where there are people screaming on one end, there is no problem at all with having a little bit of extra politeness.
Tact, the kind of tact you should cultivate, is not a form of deception or make-believe, but a cultivated taste which gives fine perception in seeing and doing what is best under all circumstances. There is nothing which will so readily bring you into favor, or disarm an opponent, as the right use of tact.
I’m absolute attacking my own instinct for politeness, but I think I admire artists who just speak out or who are strong, so it’s very hard.
Punctuality is the politeness of kings.
Louis XVIII of France
The very essence of politeness seems to be to take care that by our words and actions we make other people pleased with us as well as with themselves.
What’s so useful about the British culture of politeness is the level of passive aggression is really fun to write.
The truth is, the more kind and liberal a man is, the more generous will be the patronage bestowed upon him.
A dying culture invariably exhibits personal rudeness. Bad manners. Lack of consideration for others in minor matters. A loss of politeness, of gentle manners, is more significant than is a riot.
Clarity is the politeness of the man of letters.
Politeness is the chief sign of culture.
One of the things that hold together a human society is the existence of basic politeness among its members.
I come from people who have always been polite enough to feel that nothing has ever happened to them.
There is nothing costs less than civility.
Courteousness is consideration for others; politeness is the method used to deliver such considerations.
Ceremonies are different in every country, but true politeness is everywhere the same.
In nothing do we fail more, as a Mission, than in lack of tact and politeness.
It’s one of these things that I’ve been struck by for so long about America. You know, this amazing politeness of American life that’s not at all class specific. It’s not like people get more polite as ascend the hierarchy of society. Just incredible good manners. It’s always been something that I’ve noticed.
Courtesy is the bedrock of social interchange. No matter what you’re doing, even if you’re fomenting revolution, you can still be courteous.
Joan M. Drury
Kindly politeness is the slow fruit of advanced reflection; it is a sort of humanity and kindliness applied to small acts and every day discourse: it bids man soften towards others, and forget himself for the sake of others: it constrains genuine nature, which is selfish and gross.
The aim is to burn through to first thoughts, to the place where energy is unobstructed by social politeness or the internal censor, to the place where you are writing what you mind actually sees and feels, not what it thinks it should see or feel.
Imagine a superstar of his stature coming to someone like me and saying, ‘Hi Meghana, I’m Mohanlal. Nice to meet you!’ I was so taken aback by his politeness.
Politeness is one of those advantages which we never estimate rightly but by the inconvenience of its loss.
When suave politeness, tempering bigot zeal, corrected ‘I believe’ to ‘one does feel’.
Politeness is good nature regulated by good sense.
A polite enemy is just as difficult to discredit, as a rude friend is to protect.
During a long and varied career as a bachelor, dear spouse [mock platform manner], I have noticed that marriage is usually the death of politeness between a man and a woman.
Politeness is as much concerned in answering letters within a reasonable time, as it is in returning a bow, immediately.
There is no policy like politeness; and a good manner is the best thing in the world either to get a good name, or to supply the want of it.
Spare me this sanctimony about politeness, please. There are millions of people in this country who hate the very word ‘Thatcher‘ and ‘Thatcherism,’ which continues until this day.
Nothing is more favorable to the rise of politeness and learning, than a number of neighboring and independent states, connected together by commerce and policy.
Politeness only teaches us to save others from unnecessary pain…. You are not bound by politeness to tell any falsehoods.
It is because gold is rare that gilding has been invented, which, without having its solidity, has all its brilliancy. Thus, to replace the kindness we lack, we have devised politeness which has all its appearance.
True politeness is perfect ease and freedom. It simply consists in treating others just as you love to be treated yourself.
I try to be kind, and I try to reflect that in my comedy, but I’m also incredibly bad at being mean. I can’t pull it off effectively, so I always end up reverting back to politeness.
Unhappily the habit of being offensive ‘without meaning it’ leads usually to a way of making amends which the injured person cannot but regard as a being amiable without meaning it.
If a man didn’t make sense, the Scotch felt it was misplaced politeness to try to keep him from knowing it. Better that he be aware of his reputation, for this would encourage reticence which goes well with stupidity.
I’m big on manners. I’m big on politeness. I’m big on gratitude.
Politeness is fictitious benevolence. Depend upon it, the want of it never fails to produce something disagreeable to one or other.
The company of women of fashion will improve your manners, though not your understanding; and that complaisance and politeness, which are so useful in men’s company, can only be acquired in women’s.
They [the English] have a special word, “civil,” for what is elsewhere merely ordinary politeness.
Richard Nixon made a toast to me as a future Prime Minister of Canada when I was 4 months old, sitting as a centerpiece in the middle of a table as my father had plonked me down there. It was more about politeness than any great vision.
Kindness is the only service that will stand the storm of life and not wash out. It will wear well and will be remembered long after the prism of politeness or the complexion of courtesy has faded away.
Politeness is a desire to be treated politely, and to be esteemed polite oneself.
Politeness is an inexpensive way to make friends.
Politeness is not always a sign of wisdom; but the want of it always leaves room for a suspicion of folly, if folly and imprudence are the same.
Since the average person’s small supply of politeness must last him all his life, he can’t afford to waste it on bridge partners.
Alfred Sheinwold
There is a politeness of the heart; this is closely allied to love.
Politeness, n: The most acceptable hypocrisy.
I don’t suffer from an abundance of politeness.
There is a time for politeness and there is a time when you are obliged to be rude.
We cough because we can’t help it, but others do it on purpose.
I still do find it very difficult in the West to connect to this politeness of smiling, not saying how you’re thinking or not saying how you really feel.
I am not a Jew for Jesus but I am definitely a Jew for Christmas. Christmas is one of the best things you Christians have given us, along with mac and cheese, Bono, croquet and politeness.
People are less self-conscious in the intimacy of family life and during the anxiety of a great sorrow. The dazzling varnish of anextreme politeness is then less in evidence, and the true qualities of the heart regain their proper proportions.
Amazing what the British do with language; the nuances of politeness. The world’s great diplomats, surely.
As in smooth oil the razor best is whet, So wit is by politeness sharpest set; Their want of edge from their offence is seen, Both pain us least when exquisitely keen.
Politeness induces morality. Serenity of manners requires serenity of mind.
My father believed in toughness, honesty, politeness and being on time. All very important lessons.
Honesty is good sense, politeness, amiableness,–all in one.
Be sure, when you think you are being extremely tactful, that you are not in reality running away from something you ought to face.
Frank Medlicott
Home is the place where true politeness tells.
You can do a lot more with weapons and politeness than just politeness.
I think this whole discussion about what is politically correct – sometimes you have to name the name. You can’t hide it. Politeness is good if it’s not hiding the truth.
The ultimate politeness in art consists of speaking only to those who are able to uncover and measure its relationships. Anything else is symbolic, and symbolism is merely transcendental imagery.
Politeness costs nothing. Nothing, that is, to him that shows it; but if often costs the world very dear.
It is wise to apply the oil of refined politeness to the mechanism of friendship.
Politeness is better than logic. You can often persuade when you cannot convince.
Politeness is the result of good sense and good nature.
I don’t think you should have to try to be nice, I think most people are nice. I think being cheerful and nice is just a politeness.
Hope, politeness, the blowing of a nose, the squeak of a boot, all produce “boum.
That survival instinct, that will to live, that need to get back to life again, is more powerful than any consideration of taste, decency, politeness, manners, civility. Anything. It’s such a powerful force.
The only option is politeness-remember always that you are dealing with other primates.
With hat in hand, one gets on in the world.
Virtue, perhaps, is nothing more than politeness of soul.
Be not intimidatednor suffer yourselves to be wheedled out of your liberties by any pretense of politeness, delicacy, or decency. These, as they are often used, are but three different names for hypocrisy, chicanery and cowardice.
When politeness is used to show up other people, it is reclassified as rudeness. Thus it is technically impossible to be too polite.
Our morality seems to be only a check on the ultimate domination of force, just as our politeness is a check on the impulse of every pig to put his feet in the trough.
That roguish and cheerful vice, politeness.
The true effect of genuine politeness seems to be rather ease than pleasure.
True politeness is consideration for the opinions of others. It has been said of dogmatism that it is only puppyism come to its full growth; and certainly the worst form this quality can assume is that of opinionativeness and arrogance.
Be polite; write diplomatically; even in a declaration of war one observes the rules of politeness.
Courtesies of a small and trivial character are the ones which strike deepest in the grateful and appreciating heart.
Don’t mistake politeness for lack of strength.
Politeness is, you know, is a wonderful thing. Manners are in fact, really important thing. But remember, Jesus didn’t have many manners as we now know.
I don’t understand how a woman can leave the house without fixing herself up a little – if only out of politeness. And then, you never know, maybe that’s the day she has a date with destiny. And it’s best to be as pretty as possible for destiny.
Adrian’s face was the picture of perfect politeness and restraint, meaning something disastrous was about to happen.
Marriage is the strictest tie of perpetual friendship, and there can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity; and he must expect to be wretched, who pays to beauty, riches, or politeness that regard which only virtue and piety can claim.
Defect in manners is usually the defect of fine perceptions. Men are too coarsely made for the delicacy of beautiful carriage and customs. It is not quite sufficient to good breeding, a union of kindness and independence.
Gentleness is the great point to be obtained in the study of manners.
(Politeness is) a tacit agreement that people’s miserable defects, whether moral or intellectual, shall on either side be ignored and not be made the subject of reproach.
Politeness decrees that you must listen to be kind; intelligence decrees that you must listen to learn.
The sweetness and generosity and politeness and gentleness and humanity of the French had shown me how lovely life can be if one takes time to be friendly.
There is no accomplishment so easy to acquire as politeness and none more profitable.
The last introvert in a world of extroverts. Silence: my response to both emptiness and saturation. But silence frightens people. I had to learn how to talk. Out of politeness.
Politeness makes one appear outwardly as they should be within.
Civilized men are more discourteous than savages because they know they can be impolite without having their skulls split, as a general thing.
It seems to me that the spirit of politeness is a certain attention in causing that, by our words and by our manners, others may be content with us and with themselves.
Politeness costs little and yields much.
What is politeness in the home but the outcome of affection and self-respect, and the suppression of all those natural instincts of self-seeking that, allowed their way, produce the worst manners in the world?
Sorry, am I being rude?” she asks. “I’m used to saying whatever is on my mind. Mom used to say that politeness is deception in pretty packaging
True power and true politeness are above vanity.
Manners are a sensitive awareness of the feelings of others.
The only true source of politeness is consideration,–that vigilant moral sense which never loses sight of the rights, the claims, and the sensibilities of others. This is the one quality, over all others, necessary to make a gentleman.
It is a wise thing to be polite; consequently, it is a stupid thing to be rude. To make enemies by unnecessary and willful incivility, is just as insane a proceeding as to set your house on fire. For politeness is like a counter–an avowedly false coin, with which it is foolish to be stingy.
I do not want to be a robot, a cog in society who answersyes‘ because ‘yes’ is considered the appropriate answer. Neither do I want to be a protestor. I just want to seek out what lies underneath the veils of politeness and programming that I’ve been given as a person in this society.
As charity covers a multitude of sins before God, so does politeness before men.
Funny how a little politeness can change people’s minds.
Callousness and insolence bring to bare unanimous social condemnation, while the simple efforts of politeness are admired; even in those who are otherwise despised.
Companies make a big point of how their culture is all about ‘bad news first,’ but when it comes to people, they are suddenly scared to communicate bad news out of some mistaken feeling of politeness or political correctness.
True politeness is to social life what oil is to machinery, a thing to oil the ruts and grooves of existence. False politeness can shine without warming and glitter without vivifying.
Politeness does not always inspire goodness, equity, complaisance, and gratitude; it gives at least the appearance of these qualities, and makes man appear outwardly, as he should be within.
Avoid all haste; calmness is an essential ingredient of politeness.
When good friends praise a gifted person he often appears to be delighted with them out of politeness and goodwill, but in reality he feels indifferent.
Politeness smooths wrinkles.
Curious how Love destroys every vestige of that politeness which the human race, in its years of evolution, has so painfully acquired.
You’ve gotta be very careful that grace and politeness do not merge into a banality of behavior, where we’re just nice, sort of ‘death by cupcake.’
Politeness is the art of choosing among your thoughts.
There are few defects in our nature so glaring as not to be veiled from observation by politeness and good-breeding.
The test of good manners is to be patient with the bad ones.
Fine manners are like personal beauty,–a letter of credit everywhere.
Christian piety annihilates the egoism of the heart; worldly politeness veils and represses it.
Politeness is wasted on the dishonest, who will always take advantage of any well-intended concession.
Barrett Brown
The boldness of his mind was sheathed in a scabbard of politeness.
Dumas Malone
Politeness, however, acts the lady‘s maid to our thoughts; and they are washed, dressed, curled, rouged, and perfumed, before they are presented to the public.
Society, by insisting on conventions, has merely insisted on certain convenient signs by which we may know that a man is considering, in daily life, the comfort of other people.
Politeness is half good manners and half good lying.
Art requires neither complaisance nor politeness; nothing but faith, faith and freedom.
Politeness and consideration for others is like investing pennies and getting dollars back.
Never speak to an invalid from behind, nor from the door, nor from any distance from him, nor when he is doing anything. The official politeness of servants in these things is so grateful to invalids, that many prefer, without knowing why, having none but servants about them.
The people are different in L.A. There was a time when I lived in New York and that was a bit of a shock, because everybody in New York was so honest, instead of so polite and backstabbing. But you learn to love the backstabbing politeness in L.A.
What Darwin was too polite to say, my friends, is that we came to rule the earth not because we were the smartest, or even the meanest, but because we have always been the craziest, most murderous motherfuckers in the jungle.
Be nice to everyone, always smile & appreciate things because it could all be gone tomorrow.
Politeness is deception in pretty packaging.
True politeness is the spirit of benevolence showing itself in a refined way. It is the expression of good-will and kindness. It promotes both beauty in the man who possesses it, and happiness in those who are about him. It is a religious duty, and should be a part of religious training.
I’m sitting in my home office wearing a bathrobe. The same way I’m not going to start wearing ties, I’m also not going to buy into the fake politeness, the lying, the office politics and backstabbing, the passive aggressiveness, and the buzzwords.
Politeness [is] a sign of dignity, not subservience.
Politeness is only one half good manners and the other half good lying.
In Japan, I was immensely impressed by the politeness, industrious nature and conscientiousness of the Japanese people.
Politeness of the mind is to have delicate thoughts
to be civilized is to be incapable of giving unnecessary offense, it is to have some quality of consideration for all who cross our path.
All Politeness is owing to Liberty. We polish one another, and rub off our Corners and rough Sides by a sort of amicable Collision. To restrain this, is inevitably to bring a Rust upon Mens Understandings.
A quick and sound judgment, good common sense, kind feeling, and an instinctive perception of character, in these are the elements of what is called tact, which has so much to do with acceptability and success in life.
I think that helps because there has been no formality of friendship, the politeness of friendship, so we can just work directly on the work that’s ahead of us [with Tom Hardey].
Good breeding, a union of kindness and independence.
Great men show politeness in a particular way; a smile suffices to assure you that you are welcome, and keep about their avocations as if you were a member of the family.
such is the effect of true politeness, that it banishes all restraint and embarassment.
Politeness of mind consists in thinking chaste and refined thoughts.